Holiday Wish for Families of an Addict


For most people, the holidays are a time for getting together with friends and family, for exchanging gifts and setting beautiful tables groaning with good food. For those families with an addicted loved one, holidays can be pure torture. This time of year is a reminder of the beautiful person with so much promise who has been lost.

Hearts don’t quickly heal when a son, daughter or other loved one is lost to addiction. The thief that steals them away could be an opiate, meth or benzodiazepine overdose. When addiction takes control of a person’s life, he (or she) gradually loses everything of value – trust, home, career, family and possessions.

Our holiday wish for every family with an addicted loved one is recovery for that individual before some irrevocable damage can steal them away forever.

But What if a Loved One Refuses Help?

Refusing help is part and parcel of most people’s addictions. According to the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration,there were 20.2 million people needing treatment for alcohol or drug abuse who didn’t get it. 95.5% of these people did not try to get help because they didn’t feel they needed it. These people will most likely reject their families’ requests to get help. They may continue to lie and manipulate family members to keep them from interrupting their drinking or drug use.

So what can the family do to overcome this resistance?

Staging an Effective Intervention

An intervention does not have to be accusative or consist of a roomful of crying relatives. It does not require beating down the addicted person’s resistance. An experienced interventionist works on finding the addicted person’s hope of recovery – which may be buried deep. These small sparks are carefully nurtured into flames of hope that carry the addicted person into a rehab program. This should be pre-arranged so it can immediately follow an intervention.

At Narconon centers around the world, we have seen this work time after time. It works because no one wants to be an addict. No one ever had the intention to walk down this self-destructive path. After enough experiences with a drug (which could be one time for heroin or methamphetamine or a larger number of experiences with alcohol or marijuana), the body’s cravings and the person’s psychological dependence take over and seem to dictate those destructive decisions to reach for drugs or alcohol instead of help.

An Intervention Means You Don’t Have to Wait

If you are waiting for the person to come to you asking for help, you don’t have to wait any more. You don’t have to wait for a “rock bottom” that might not arrive before an overdose, accident or jail. And most especially, you don’t have to wait by the phone for a call telling you of that accident, arrest or worse.

There are Narconon drug rehab centers around the world that can help you reach out to your loved one and overcome his (or her) objections to recovery. And the Narconon rehab program can provide a path back to sobriety and the ability to stay sober for good.


It takes life skills to make sober decisions every day after you get home and that’s one of the major focuses at Narconon. Each person learns how to repair the damage of past addiction and deal with the day-to-day challenges. Challenges that at one time might have driven him back drugs or alcohol.

With the Narconon program you can get your loved one back. Which could be the greatest gift of all.

Don’t wait to get help. Call Narconon Ojai at 1-866-292-4503.


Sue Birkenshaw

Sue has worked in the addiction field with the Narconon network for three decades. She has developed and administered drug prevention programs worldwide and worked with numerous drug rehabilitation centers over the years. Sue is also a fine artist and painter, who enjoys traveling the world which continues to provide unlimited inspiration for her work. You can follow Sue on Twitter, or connect with her on LinkedIn.